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What Nobody Tells You About Outgrowing Your Life I had coffee with a friend last month. “I was offered the number three position in the company,” she said. “The one I thought I wanted for the past five years. The perfect capstone before retirement.” I waited. “And now I don’t want it.” She looked at me like she was confessing something shameful. The role required relocation. More hours. More intensity. And somewhere between the offer conversations with her president and our c

Time to Build Your Portfolio Life Everyone needs to boss themselves around—especially in mid-career. Because if you don’t design your life, someone else’s agenda will. In The Permission Paradox , we talked about giving yourself the green light. Permission matters. But permission alone is passive. It’s the ignition, not the engine. So let’s talk about what comes after permission. The Premise You Need to Reject The traditional career arc is a trap: Work 40+ years → Hit a finis

Why Successful People Get Stuck I’m Carolyn Regan, leadership coach for successful people redesigning their next chapter. I’ve seen one clear pattern emerge again and again: people reclaim clarity, energy, and impact once they give themselves permission to change. Here’s the truth: the gap between those who actually redesign their lives and those who stay stuck isn’t about potential. It’s permission . You give it to everyone else. It’s time to give it to yourself. What’s Actu

It's Not What You Think You’re sitting in your kitchen. Heart racing. A million thoughts spinning. You know that moment when your palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms heavy ? Yeah, that’s Eminem lyrics — but also exactly what fear feels like. And it’s exactly what it feels like to be standing on the edge of something new. Neuroscience says something surprising: fear and excitement trigger the same physiological response . Your body can’t tell the difference. The only difference

Stillness That Transforms I’m a FOMO girl, an extrovert fueled by motion: one-on-one walks, big gatherings, always doing. Pause doesn’t come naturally. When summer ended and we moved into our new house, life got quiet. Anxiety crept in: a touch of loneliness, a hint of guilt over feeling it at all. My first instinct was to make plans, to create busyness. But I stopped. Instead, I sat with it. I breathed through the anxiety, acknowledged it— Yes, there you are —and released it

15 Minutes to Snapshot Your Life Today Aliveness is that electric feeling of being fully here . Energized, engaged, awake to your own life. Not just productive. Not just busy. Alive. Here’s the catch: aliveness doesn’t happen until you take a clear-eyed look at where you are. It shows up when how you spend your time matches what really matters to you. And most of us? We never stop to check. 👉 Want to skip straight to the tool? Complete your Aliveness Audit here . The Proble

How to create aliveness in your work, projects, and life. I’m on the treadmill at my local gym, working up to my 12-3-30 , listening to time expert Oliver Burkeman on Feel Better, Live More podcast. And then Burkeman says it. The word I’ve been searching for to describe the kind of energy and culture I try to build around people: aliveness . He quotes Jungian analyst James Hollis, who says life moves toward growth, “something juicy, something alive.” Then Burkeman adds: “I

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